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RESPONSE TO A COMMENT...




I received a blog-comment! I don’t get many comments, so as you can see, when I do, I get a little excited. Hope you don’t mind me re-posting your comment Gary24fan. Forgive my long-winded reply, I’m in the critical analysis phase of my PhD so I found your comment fascinating. Thanks for posting and I applaud your honesty, even if I found it challenging to read initially. My motto: ‘if we don’t know, we don’t grow’… and I do like to be challenged.

COMMENT IN RESPONSE TO ‘FU**ING GREAT DISABLED LIFE PEEPS!’ BY GARY24FAN:

Hmmm. I think you have some anger issues to deal with still, which is understandable, but to make fun of guys who may find you attractive is a bit much. And you are, wheelchair or not, but with that attitude I wouldn't give you the time of day.

MY REPLY:

No worries, sorry it's taken so long to reply. The piece was written in a satirical manner, not to be taken seriously I assure you. I admit, I do smile at men (hey, I'm a chick, I have needs, even in the face of the dominant discourse that suggests us wheelchair folk are asexual) and sometimes ‘the look’ works... so although most time their looks turn from a smile into confusion/horror/bewilderment, occasionally I get lucky and meet a real diamond. It's a numbers game.

Angry... interesting assessment from one piece I wrote. You are right, I get angry for sure. This injury isn't always a picnic, I face a lot of dicks (lets be honest, I can even be one myself) and they aren’t just men obviously. I'm human, I admit... so yes, I do get angry… I also get sad, happy, horny.. all sorts of emotions and feelings. Again, I'm human.

I'm not sure I'd classify myself as an all-time angry lass. In saying that, I’m feisty for sure, I speak my mind… but always, I try to be kind and respectful. I know that seems to ‘fly in the face’ of your analysis that I 'make fun of men'. Well, perhaps you misunderstood me, rejection isn't a fun process, but instead of it getting me down, I make light of the situation. Giving a man the 'come to bed look' won't break his heart, if anything, it opens the door for dialogue and sometimes I've been pleasantly surprised when approached by 'the men I look at'. If you don't give me the time of day due to my 'sexy glance', I'll be ok.

Wow a long winded way to say, it's not about making fun of anyone, it's about taking rejection with a smile and a laugh... and as I said, sometimes my ‘trying to be sexy look’ bags me a winner, sometimes it backfires. That's life I guess. I may not choose you to be my psychotherapist (if I thought I needed one) but I love your honesty, it keeps me real so thank you.

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jmarcal
Jun 08, 2020

You are so beautiful to me!!!!

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randallgwest
Jun 06, 2020

Dear Claire, I saw the Attitude video on YouTube and here I am on your blog. I don't know you but I love what I have seen so far. I know some things are more difficult but I don't see you as disabled at all.

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marcelomanfredini68
marcelomanfredini68
Apr 01, 2020

Hi, Good Night, Claire.


I've, been following your bloging for a while now, I realy appreciate it when you put your thougths in words here, so I get to know a little more about you, your struggles, your joys, your desires. You are fascinating, attractive, intelligent, hardworking woman, with an easy and beautiful smile, that smile that enlightens you completely. The smaling woman displays her most beautiful curves.


Marcelo

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jmarcal
Mar 30, 2020

Yes you are very attractive, beautiful and sexy!

As I told you, you are the most beautiful woman that I ever saw in my all life!

Have a nice week! And take very good care you your self!


Best!

JM

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Karl Ritchie
Karl Ritchie
Mar 29, 2020

Hi Claire,


Good luck with the PHD. I can honestly say that I find you attractive & I hope you make more videos soon.


Karl

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